I Choose Me

Do you ever stop and think about your life?  Do you ever wonder who you are living your life for?  Some answers might be that you are living it for your spouse, or your family.  But me?  I am living my life for me.

No one except for myself.  Yes, I have a husband and I have a great family, but I don’t live my life for them.  I live it for myself.  And I live my life the way I want to live it.  I don’t live it for anyone else.

I choose me.

I choose me because I love myself.

I choose me because I can’t control anyone else except myself.

I choose me because I need to remember to love myself.

I choose me because I think individuality is important in relationships.

I choose me because I want to choose me.

Do you “choose me”?

So You Are Planning A Wedding – Things I Learned

While planning our wedding, we had time on our side.  When you are engaged almost 22 months, you can pretty much coast through most of the planning.  You do a little bit here, a little bit there.  You take your time.  But despite the fact that we had such a long engagement, there were things we learned along the way.  Lessons learned, if you will.

Remember:  no 2 weddings are the same, and everyone’s experience planning their wedding will be different too.

So You Are Planning A Wedding - What I Learned | Chits & Giggles

Your groom or the groom’s family will have opinions.

I was lucky with how involved Jeremy wanted to be in the planning.  Yes, I picked the place, but it filled all of our criteria.  He chose the cake, gave approval for every decision that was made, and was very present throughout the entire planning process.  He picked out our photographer too.

This piece of advice doesn’t come from my personal experience.  My in-laws are great and were throughout the whole planning process.  But I know that isn’t always the case.  Be upfront with them about what you and your groom want.  Remember that it is your day…not theirs.  Be respectful of them, but make sure they know your vision.

Figure out the money part first.

Weddings cost money.  And usually it’s a good amount of money.  Figure out your budget first.  Be upfront about the things that are important to you and what you want to spend your funds on.  Also figure out who is paying for what.  More than likely it’s not going to be the bride’s family that pays for it.  The bride and groom might pitch in, or both families pitch in.  Have the conversation about that early on and stick with it.

Bonus piece of advice:  If you can get a lump sum of money at the beginning, then you won’t have to keep asking for money.  And you will be in control of all payments, ect.

Have a clear vision of what your day will look like.

This was key to having a successful wedding.  We knew exactly what type of wedding we were having.  There wasn’t really any question once we found our venue.  I also had an idea of how the entire day would play out in my head while we were planning.  Get ready, first look with dad, bridal portraits, first look with Jeremy, wedding party pictures, ceremony, family pictures, reception, send off.

Once I knew that Jeremy and I were having a first look and once I knew that my dad and I would have a moment to ourselves as well, it became clear what the timeline would look like.  And speaking of timeline…

Create a timeline.  Just do it.

I’m going to be honest.  Our timeline wasn’t too detailed, but it showed everyone where to go and what time things were scheduled for.  Just remember that if things don’t go according to plan (hello hour delay because of the weather), that it’s just fine.  Everyone will be wanting to help make your dream wedding happen.  Just trust them.

Have a backup plan.

Our wedding was completely outdoors.  We didn’t have a tent, and while we had a backup space, we agreed we would only need it if it was ABSOLUTELY necessary.  Luckily, the venue didn’t push us to take anything inside.  They worked with us and we were able to get everything we wanted – we just had to wait an hour.  Even though we didn’t use our backup space, I felt reassured knowing that we had one…and it would have been just as beautiful.

Know your vendors will work with you if things don’t go as planned.

When we were in our hour delay, our photographers came up to us to start family portraits.  Jeremy and I already had our first look, so we could see each other while we were waiting.  This was such a blessing.  During that hour delay, we got all the family shots done and over with so that we didn’t have to wait until after the ceremony to do them.  They used the time we were waiting to get these shots done, and I am so glad that they did that.

Things will go wrong.  Just be prepared for it.

The day before you get married, the high is in the 90s.  You are sweating bullets and dreading what the next day will bring.  When you wake up on your wedding day with only a 20% chance of rain…and then a huge storm blows through.  The rest of the day is overcast, but the rain holds off until the end of the day.

The main thing that happened to us was the weather and the delay.  But, it all worked out in the end.  We got great pictures under an umbrella and we still got married.

What were your lessons learned from your wedding?

5 Network TV Shows You Should Be Watching

When we cut cable and gave up our DVR, I wasn’t sure we would survive.  But you know what, we have.  And we are better for it (I think).  We still have 10 basic channels, but you know what.  That is enough.  More than enough.  When you catch yourself watching mainly basic channels anyways (the network channels), you probably don’t need to pay for all the extra ones.

Since network TV is all we have, I want to share 5 TV shows that you should be watching.

5 Network TV Shows You Should Be Watching

#5.  American Crime | ABC

I had a feeling this would be a great show, and I wasn’t disappointed.  There are so many aspects to this that I can’t wait to see how it ends.  You can catch old episodes On Demand or online.

#4.  The Voice | NBC

I remember when the first season of The Voice aired.  I was skeptical but interested.  I love the whole concept of the show and I love how they have adapted to really keep viewers happy.  Watching the artists grow as the season goes on is great too.  And now that the live shows are about to start, it’s even better.

#3.  World News Tonight with David Muir | ABC

I used to hate watching the news, but now that I am 30, I’m really interested in it.   I like knowing what’s going on all over the country and the world, and David Muir delivers.  His voice is so calming, and I love how he shares his own travel adventures on the program sometimes.  Besides The Skimm, this is how I get my news each night.

#2.  Revenge | ABC

I have been watching Revenge since it first aired.  I love Emily van Camp and was curious how she would do being the star of a show.  But she has held her own and done a great job.  Yes, the story is complicated and yes, it’s a little bit out there and crazy, but I love it.  I love how the characters have changed and evolved as the seasons have passed.  And they aren’t afraid to kill off main characters.

#1.  Jane the Virgin | CW

This is one of my newest loves, and boy…it’s a great show.  Not only did Gina Rodrigez win a Golden Globe, she deserved it.  The story is so intriguing and there are so many intertwined storylines, you don’t really know what is gong to happen next.  I really love the narrator – his voice is so sexy.

What are your favorite network TV shows?

Where’s My Motivation?

Lately, I have been so incredibly unmotivated to do anything to help my weight.  I realize that I am gaining weight, but I can’t seem to do anything to fix it.  It’s almost like I don’t care, and that I am happy where I am.

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The thing is that I do care about my appearance and I have been feeling like a lump.  I want to feel the way I did when I hit my goal weight 2 years ago.  I want to have that feeling of “YES”!  when I stick to my plan.  But right now, I have no plan.  I don’t belong to a gym.  I don’t watch what I eat.  I don’t exercise regularly.

I am comfortable in my own skin, but I don’t love the way I look.  Clothes don’t fit me the way they used to.  They huge and tug in all the wrong places.  But I seem to be OK with that.  I just don’t have the motivation anymore to change anything.

So, what do I do?

How do I get my motivation back?

I’m getting tired of feeling the way I do and I want to do something about it.  I do.  I just don’t enjoy working out and I really do hate dieting (don’t we all?).  So what can I do that doesn’t really include a diet?

One thing that is on my list of To-do’s is join the gym at work.  It’s not really convenient to get to, but it is on our campus and it’s so cheap.  I don’t belong now because they closed it to renovate it.  I think it should be opening up in late spring or summer, so I will get on that when it finally reopens.  Our office is really striving toward a better lifestyle, so working out and eating healthier helps my insurance deducible.  That is my incentive.

I will join the gym once it opens back up, but then what?  I still am not sure I am going to be motivated enough to work out consistently.  I don’t really understand it, but I want to want these things.  I just don’t right now.  It’s a constant struggle between eating something healthy and something oh-so-not-healthy.  I usually choose the not-so-healthy version because – why not?

I need motivation to make this a complete lifestyle change (which it really should be).

Does anyone have tips for keeping your motivation or getting motivation back?