I have a “friend” who I have been friends with for over 20 years. We became best friends back in grade school and we have dealt with life, gone to different colleges, had breakups, love, family loss. We have really been through it all. Oh and we lived together for 3 years.
You would think that a friendship would grow and continue to flourish after all that, right?
Well…that’s not the case. So what is a girl to do when he is posed with the question of letting someone who has been a part of your life (albeit a very small part recently) go and move on from the friendship.
Is it OK for the friendship to be one-sided? No. No it can’t.
When do you throw in the towel and just give up on them? I hate that word, “give up”, but that would be basically what I would be doing to her. Now, I realize that we have had a very one sided friendship for a very long time and I really just am tired of not being a priority for her.
If I were moving out of the city we live in, I would do everything–and I mean EVERYTHING–in my power to make time for her. I would make sure that we have that one last dinner date before I move and make sure that the memories of us last. But that is not the case with her. She is either too busy or forgot–this happens often with her–about our plans that I made with her 2 weeks ago. Why do I allow this push-over behavior? It has been like this for a long time with us. Because of that, I just can’t take it anymore.
Am I being overly dramatic?
Is it worth trying to salvage something when you know one isn’t in it anymore?
When is enough, enough?