I have been engaged for 438 days. I had to use a converter from Google to figure that out! Ha. Anyways, there are still 193 days until our wedding. Whew. That seems like it’s creeping up here so so quickly. Oh dear. I have so much left to do!
I want to use today to give those newly engaged brides a few tips for those just starting their wedding planning process. Am I an expert? Of course not. I just know that I have been engaged for a long time and have gained some kind of knowledge.
1. Set your budget early and download a budget spreadsheet.
This might seem pretty simple to most people, but it’s really important to know how much you can spend. The spreadsheet is used to keep you on track. I can tell you from personal experience that knowing where your money is going is so important. And remember that all those little things you buy really do add up A LOT.
2. Find out who is paying for what and how much they or you will be contributing.
Traditionally, it is the bride’s family that pays for the wedding. The grooms family, traditionally, pays for the rehearsal dinner. But since it’s 2013, things are changing. Personally, we are shelling out a good amount of money based on the things that were most important to us, and I am ok with that. Figuring these things out earlier will help later on with those difficult conversations about money.
3. Know what is really important to you.
Early on in the planning process (I mean, if we are being honest it was well before Jeremy proposed), I knew that I would pay a lot of money for a great photographer and I really really wanted a videographer. I know video isn’t that important to many people, but I knew I wanted a quality video from a professional. Because of this, Jeremy decided to pay for these things ourselves. I’d love to say it’s because we wanted to help out my dad, but it was because both ended up being much more expensive than I ever thought, but still really wanted them and wasn’t willing to skimp on either of these things.
4. Have an idea of your location before you go venue shopping.
Some girls dream of getting married in a church. Some have visions of the beach. Some want a remote spot. Some don’t really care. Just have an idea before you start venue shopping. I knew VERY early on that I wanted a mountain destination wedding. Once I knew that, I was able to focus my search on places that were more destinations but still did quality weddings as well. And I think I hit the jackpot. But it really is important to know what you want before you start shopping around and emailing venues.
5. Be ready for your groom to have some opinions.
Everyone will tell you that the groom is just going to have to show up, but I can tell you that some grooms want more of an opinion. Because really, it is their day too. Yes, you are the bride, but their family will be there as well and their family could be pitching in for the reception. I like to give Jeremy 2-3 options of what I like and then we decide together on things. I also have dedicated Pinterest boards for the wedding (decor, invites, cakes, ceremony, ect). I pinned away to my heart’s content and then showed Jeremy what I had pinned and we decide together which ones we both liked. We did this for our invites and the cake.
6. Don’t overuse Pinterest.
Yes, I just mentioned I pinned stuff for our wedding. And we are using/DIYing some of the things I have pinned. A lot of things were inspiration. I can tell you that most of the things I pinned were pinned either before we were engaged or the night we got engaged. I have pinned a few things since then but I have spent most of the time tweaking the pins I pinned (deleting multiple pins or ones I didn’t like anymore) and really fine tuning the pins I had. You don’t want your wedding to be like Pinterest vomit. No one wants that. Pinterest is great, but don’t go overboard. Seriously, lay off the pinning.
7. Let your venue dictate your theme.
What do I mean? If you are getting married on the beach, remember that when picking your theme. I don’t think a beach wedding would go with a black tie affair. They just don’t seem to go together, you know? Can they? Of course. But it’s not typical. We are having a mountain destination wedding. Rustic is the name of the game. It’s not necessarily because I wanted a rustic wedding, but our venue is über rustic, so it just makes sense. I can also guarantee that you won’t find tons of mason jars or burlap at our wedding.
That is all I have for today. Remember to enjoy the wedding planning process and try not to get too stressed. I know that is hard, but it is possible to enjoy your engagement!
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