I asked on Twitter – a few weeks ago – for married ladies to tell me what regrets they have from their weddings. The responses were so interesting. So today, I am going to share with you what they told me – so interesting!
Here are some regrets that past brides have had. I will be remembering some of these during our planning!
Don’t Let Others Rain On Your Wedding Parade
“Don’t let people make you feel like you don’t care enough just because you aren’t worried every little thing is going to go wrong. Don’t let them decide things for you either. I would have been so disappointed if i had let my Mom talk me into that black and white fancy wedding. Our wedding was bright and fun perfect for us, and I wouldn’t have had it any other way!” — from Megan – All that Glitters
“I would try to remember the day is about me and the groom and try to block out everyone elses’ needs and wants for just that one day. I was awful at this. AWFUL. Admittedly, I care way too much about what people think about me and events and I really want everyone to have a good time and totally forget that I’m supposed to have a good time, too! Granted, guests aren’t always the best at leaving the bride (and groom) alone before the big day and I got some pretty annoying questions that sent me into immediate ‘stress’ mode, but overall, I could have done a better job at managing my own thoughts about the wedding and just focused on myself and what I wanted. I definitely picked out every detail I wanted for the big day, but I wasted a lot of energy just WORRYING about whether everyone else would like the decisions I made and whether they would have fun… etc. I mean, looking back, this was plain silly! We were in JAMAICA, of course everyone had a fabulous time!” from Lisa — Two Martinis
Hire A Professional Photographer
“The only regret I have is that we had a fairly new photographer, who didn’t have a ton of experience and even though we gave him a list of the photos we wanted, there were lots that were missed out… or just done plain wrong. I have no pictures of me with my grandparents at all on the day, and we didn’t get any of what I would have said was a very “classic” wedding moment of us and our witnesses signing the register. He also took pictures of my husband’s aunt’s place card, but not mine…?! Surely the name of the bride is rather more important than the name of an aunt? Thankfully my bridesmaid DID take a picture of mine, so I have one.” — from Jenni – Flying on a Rainbow
“To save money on our wedding, since we were paying for it all ourselves, my husbands aunt offered to be our photographer as our wedding present. Now she isn’t a professional photographer but I saw some photo shoots she did for people and they looked great so I said sure. Well, she never asked once what pictures I wanted and the day of the wedding she was so jumbled that it was just chaotic. Fast forward to almost a year later and I only had about 30 pictures from my wedding. ” from Mandy — Mandys Money
“I’d create a document of posed bridal pictures I really liked, so I could send it to the photographer ahead of time to make sure I got all the shots I wanted. The one thing that we didn’t really have time for in our wedding day was pictures. Like the posed/documentary style ones. As a result of us losing sunlight hours, we didn’t get in all the pictures I would have liked of my husband and I. Of course, I adore the candid wedding shots, but looking back, there were a few ‘posed’ pictures that I would have wanted to include. I think if I would have saved some ideas of these poses and sent them to the photographers ahead of time, they would have made it happen. Same goes for specific pictures of groups of people, special wedding jewelry / paper goods / etc.” from Lisa — Two Martinis
Deal With Stress Better
“One thing that I really wish I had done differently was not stressing so much the before the wedding. There is nothing that I can do to avoid the disasters that I’m sure will probably happen, I can only continue to smile and just be happy that at the end of the day I am married to the man I love. I wish that I had that clarity and calmness in the weeks leading up to the wedding, might of saved me some gray hairs!” from Mandy — Mandys Monday
“I’d stress out less about who wasn’t coming when the first RSVPs started coming in. Now, I thought I was mentally prepared for this. I knew that by having a destination wedding, guests wouldn’t be able to come. Close friends wouldn’t be able to come. Family members wouldn’t be able to come. But every once in a while, a RSVP response would catch me off guard, because some people you just assume will be there, you know? But in the end, the perfect guests were at our wedding and I did not spend one second of the actual day (or even the days leading up to the wedding) missing someone or wishing someone else was sharing our special day with us. I would advise all brides (and grooms!) to not take RSVPs personally and to prepare yourself for some disappointment!” from Lisa —Two Martinis
There were so many others that I could have chosen, and I still might in a future post, but I do believe that these are great. Don’t stress about things you can’t control. Don’t worry about everyone else. Don’t hire a newbie photographer. Don’t let others choose things that you don’t want. Got it!
Thank you to all the ladies that replied and emailed me. I love all your regrets and will probably feature the other ones in a later post, so thank you so so much.
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