We all know these exist. As bloggers, not everything is perfect and things happen. Why don’t we talk about it? Why don’t we try to change it? Today, I have Ashley at The Grits Blog here with me to help discuss the dark side of blogging.
So, without further ado, I present to you:
1. The Trolls
Ashley: Oh yes, they are out there. They will go on your blog and lie about you in comments, say mean things just hurt you, and just be an all around jerk. All you can really do is delete the comments – because why keep poison on your blog? – and move on. Don’t engage the crazy, just let it go and move on.
Kristyn: Oh yes, these people are out there. I hate to say it, but I usually just delete the mean comments or don’t approve them. I love that WordPress gives me the option to approve commentors and this allows me to moderate the comments a little bit. This usually is only for new commentors, but it still is nice to have that ability. You really just have to move on and let it go. No one has time for the trolls.
Ashley: It happens. You talk about your life – most of the time only showing the good, because who wants to rehash the bad, right!? Other bloggers can be catty – so can your own friends, like the trolls. Ignore it and move on.
I mean I get all jelly over my own Starbucks swag – #basicgiiiirrrlll.
Kristyn: We are all guilty of this, right? I remember getting so jealous at bloggers who just seemed to blow up over night and I am over here working my tail off every day and not getting the same results. If this happens, I just have to remember why I’m blogging and what I love about it. You can’t let the little things get to you – like stats – and you have to just keep on going.
3. Life Takeover
Ashley: Sometimes it feels like this blog has taken over. Like a fungus or something. When it gets like that I try to take space from this little space and get some air… or go play with your puppies.
Normally, when I come back I feel refreshed and am ready to get back to it – plus a little more loved, because how can you not feel loved after snuggling with those faces?!
Kristyn: Oh man. How many nights are we sitting on the couch with me doing something blog related – like last night – and Jeremy is either watching TV or on his phone. It gets annoying after a while for him. And I know that. But sometimes I just have to get that post out, right? It doesn’t help that we, as bloggers, should take pictures of everything under the sun that we are doing.
4. Social Media
Ashley: When I started this blog it was easy to set up a Facebook page, a new Twitter account – but the one thing I didn’t do was create a separate instagram account. Sometimes there are things I want to post on insta that I don’t because I don’t want the trolls getting a hold of it – and I try to keep some aspects of my life (and my family’s life) private.
Kristyn: I totally agree with Ashley on this. I only have one Twitter account – because I don’t do Twitter in real life – but I do have my personal Facebook account and a personal Instagram account. I don’t use my personal Instagram account often, but I love that I have it in case I want to post something that I don’t want bloggers to see. It’s hard to separate your blog life and your real life, but it’s important to do, regardless.
5. The Want to Quit
Ashley: Sometimes I want to quit. Lately, it’s more wanting to quit than not lately. It’s exhausting! But then I go back to all of the work I have put into my space and just can’t pull the plug. PLUS I love the creative outlet it provides – and the sense of accomplishment.
Kristyn: I have wanted to quit – and I took a 5 month break – so many times. Blogging is hard and is so time consuming, but it’s so rewarding too. I look back and remember the reasons why I started this blog and what my goals are, and that helps me to get my head back in the game. And like Ashley, I can’t quit. I love it too much and I love that blogging has helped me write more eloquently.