I need some advice.
So, our wedding is going to be more on the nontraditional side. The offbeat side, if you will. Because of this, I have struggled trying to come up with some ideas for our ceremony. We want a quicker ceremony, but I still want readings and some sort of unity type of thing.
I am not a fan of the sand or the unity candle. We are getting married outside on a lake. The candle is just not possible. The last thing I want is our officiant relighting the damn thing every 5 seconds. So, no candle. I am not a fan of sand because we aren’t on the beach. I think the sand would be silly for us. Do you even keep the sand?
What is a girl to do that just wants some sort of unity ceremony but doesn’t want the candle or sand? Oh and Jeremy doesn’t drink wine. So we can’t do that either.
While I was innocently browsing Pinterest one day, I came across this video.
It was a beautiful poem and it touched me. Made me a little teary, if I am being completely honest. I already got approval from Jeremy.
Here is the poem:
Kristyn and Jeremy, please face each other now and take each others hands so that you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that hold yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.
These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you throughout the years and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily come your way.
These are the hands that will, countless times, wipe the tears from yours eyes,
tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you struggle, and support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours,
still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Disclaimer: I am not trying to say that one unity ceremony is better than the other. I am only saying that for us, this one works best. There is nothing wrong with doing the unity candles or the sand. If that is what your heart desires, than please do it!