When we were engaged, I thought that marriage would be easy since we lived together before we got married. And for the most part, it has been similar to before we were married, but some things have changed.
* I am not a marriage expert at all, but I have learned quite a few things in my 5 months of marriage.
Learn each others love languages.
Jeremy and I express our love for each other in very different ways. I like to be shown that he loves me. I like when he touches me and let’s me know that I am important to him. He likes when I complete one of his chores for him. We don’t have designated chores, but he does the chunk of the dishes and I do most of the cooking and laundry.
Learning each others love languages and actually using what you learn about each other will help you express yourselves. And you won’t get frustrated when he doesn’t always express love the way you like. Knowing how he views love is really important in your relationship.
This one might seem like a no brainer to you, but trust me. You need to communicate. Over communicate if you can. We communicated when we were engaged, but we have made it a point in our marriage to communicate even more. We both come from divorced families, and I know for my parents, communication was nonexistent in the end. I clearly don’t want to go down that road, so we communicate like it’s no ones business.
We have a plan on how to get out of debt (we are so freaking close). We have talked about when we will buy another house. We have talked about when we might start to think about having babies.
Balance each others family obligations.
We are still working on this one, but you have to work on balancing each others families. Jeremy’s mom and dad live out of state, but his sister is here. We don’t visit as much as we should – and that is something we need to work on. We see my family (my mom, dad and sister all live in Atlanta) often. Balancing between seeing my family and Jeremy’s sister is one thing we need to continue to work on.
What have you learned from being married?