There you are, sitting and minding your own business on Facebook and BAM. You see a “friend” who got married a few months after you. Her wedding was beyond beautiful. And then it starts. The doubt. The fear that your wedding wasn’t good enough. The irrational belief that you aren’t good enough. The doubt creeps in and sits. And stews. And you start the compare game.
You all know what I’m talking about, right? The game that we all play – or I play all the time – when I see things on social media. And it isn’t just comparing weddings. It’s comparing lifestyles. It’s comparing financial success.
And most of the time, it’s comparing things that DON’T MATTER.
But I am guilty of this all.the.time. I hate that I do it and I know when it’s happening. And sometimes I just can’t stop playing the game. I can’t stop and take a moment and remember all of the wonderful things in my life. It’s like social media doesn’t want me to be happy. Again – it’s irrational, but that’s how it feels sometimes.
So, how do we stop playing the game? How do we stop comparing ourselves to others and just live our lives?
Here are 5 tips to help you out if you ever start thinking about comparing yourself to someone else.
1. Walk away from social media. I know this is hard since it’s at our fingertips 24/7, but just put that phone deep in your purse and leave it there. The irrational crazy that crept in while you were holding your phone will start to dissipate and you will become a happy human again.
2. Breathe. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Take another one. And follow step #1. Put that phone away and just start over.
3. Look back at pictures. This one goes hand in hand with comparing wedding pictures. Take a look at your wedding pictures. Relive it. Reread your ceremony (if you have it). Remember that no matter how big someone’s ring is, what matters is that you got married. You love another human being. You pledged your love to them for life. And your pictures are KICK ASS.
4. When in doubt, watch trashy TV. I have certain shows – or had – that I watch for such occasions. You know, Glee, New Girl, Reign, America’s Next Top Model (yes, it’s still on the air). These shows allow me to escape for a bit and jump into someone elses problems. They are perfect for when I am feeling a bit down about myself and let me remember what is important.
5. Spend time with family. My immediate family all live in the Atlanta area. It doesn’t take much to go and see my sister or mom for a few hours a day. This helps me recharge and remember that even though such and such’s wedding looked great – I have a wonderful family that I can escape to.
What do you do when you are comparing yourself to someone else?
I’m so excited to introduce you to Yvonne who blogs over at The Dahlia Scene.
Yvonne is amazing. She recently got married (back in June like you know who) and is expecting her first baby with her husband. They just went to Greece for their honeymoon, and let me tell you. Their pictures and their week in Greece looks so freaking gorgeous. I’m ready to jump on a plane and head there now. I am so jealous of her travels.
Her blog is full of amazing tips on travel, her restaurant reviews and so much more. One of my favorite posts of hers is how she opens up about people not being excited about your pregnancy. Some people just aren’t happy for you, and it was good to read that for myself.
I loved getting to know her through the Small Blog Mentor Program, and I can’t wait to watch her blog grow as she enters the unpredictable world of parenthood.
So, go and follow her and read her blog. It will be well worth it, I promise!